What to do?

Sometimes in our lives we come across decisions that are hard to make. I am having some trouble handling something that recently happened to me. I received a text from my ex. stating that he would be willing to give up his rights to our kids if I dropped child support. Well, here is the dilema. First, he doesn't pay child support to begin with. Second, he is not involved with his kids at all. Ok, doesn't seem hard right, well...based on that, no! But the dilema lies in how I would even approach my kids to tell them about their fathers idea. Or do I say anything at all? Do I let him make the decision, though it may be wrong. I can't understand how this would even be an option for him. He lives far and doesn't get to see them often, but when he does have them he spends his time on himself. Selfish, huh you don't say! Well, fine not my problem. But again the problem is in the kids. I just can't stand by and let him do that to MY kids. So where do I go from here? How could a parent just say to themselves that it is ok to walk away from their children, for (again) selfish reasons. I could never do that to my kids, they are my life. But now I am torn because I want to protect them, but at the same time, he is not serving as any type of father figure in their lives. Do I let him go through with it and screw the money, or do I force him face his responsibilities? I should be concerned with my kids feelings, money means nothing to me. But I just can't let him get away with not helping take care of his kids like he should be doing. Too many men walk away from their kids and its not right in so many ways. I am here for them no matter what. Should the trash be taken out of their lives for good?

It still exists

Last week, as I was unloading my truck full of groceries, I was approached by one of our neighbors. She somehow managed to have her mini SUV roll into the street with the hood up. So she asked me for some help pushing it back into the driveway. Well, being that the driveway had a slight incline, it was very difficult. I had to take of my shoes to get a good grip and still the SUV didn't move. She ended up getting out of the car and helped me push from the back. After many attempts, and much sweat, we were able to get the car just barely off the street. I then asked her what the problem was because the hood was up. Well, apparently, the car wouldn't start and she needed a jump. The problem was the it was in the garage with no way to get near the battery to jump it. Little did she know that I have a portable 5-in-one tool that helps with that sort of thing. (Thanks to my man keeping me safe)

Now that we have the SUV in the driveway I can jump it and get it started for her. I get to the battery and hook up the negative side to the terminal. As I look at the positive side, to hook it up, I notice that it's not even connected. Well, that just might be the reason why it didn't start originally. Duh! Well, my neighbor is a little girly girly, so she wouldn't have known if it was staring her in the face. Just then, Jeff pulls up from work. Just in time. I walk over to him, tell him the problem, he grabs his tools and returns to fix the issue. Nothing big of course, just a little tightening of a screw. She thanked us and we went home to finish the groceries.

Now this is something that I would have done for anyone. I guess I am more willing to help than not. Especially if I can. The same goes for Jeff, he is very helpful to everyone.

Last night, we get a knock on the door. It wasn't real late but we also weren't expecting anyone, so it was a surprise. I was in the middle of cleaning the kitchen after dinner so Jeff went to get the door. I could hear some talking and then the door shut. Jeff walks in the kitchen with a bag and a note. Hmmm, what could this be, and who from? We open the letter and it says:

Jeff and Monica,
Thank you for helping me with my car. I really appreciated it. Hope you enjoy this bottle of wine.

Sincerely,
(her name)

Well, well, well, well, well!!! That is sooo nice, I couldn't believe it. Like I said, I would have helped anyone that I could of. Do I deserve such a nice bottle of Merlot?? I guess I do. I guess there are still people out there in this world who really do appreciate help. I will always help someone in need, just because it makes me feel better about myself. Giving is what I do! But to be thanked and shown appreciation, well that just doesn't happen that often, but I am glad to know it still exists!!!!