Dog eat Dog!!!

Well most of you that know me, know that I am a cat person. This is for many reasons! Besides the fact that they are self sufficient, they are also very good pets. The take care of themselves for the most part and don't require love and affection as often as dogs. Also, my biggest biggest problem with dogs is the whole smelling your crotch and ass part. That is just gross and annoying! I think that dogs are more capable of attack regardless of their personal training not to. They are dogs, regardless of wild or domestic.

My boyfriend has a German Shepherd. She is a pretty dog and well behaved. I have three children and this does concern me. Will she snap at them one day?? You never know. Would a cat do that? Maybe, but you probably wont loose a limb or eye over it. Like I said before, a dog is a dog is a dog. You can't stop their natural instincts to protect or be territorial. Jeff is always telling me that his dog Hannah, has never attacked another dog or a child. Great news!!! Until last night that is.

We went for a walk around the block with Hannah. She was on a leash and heeling very well, until a little Chihuahua named Maxine comes running up to Hannah. Like normal the dogs smell each other. Well as Jeff stood there holding Hannah, I noticed that her hairs on her back were up. Usually a good sign of trouble. At that second, Hannah grabbed Max by the neck and started shaking her like a chew toy!! Oh my God!! I was scared shit less for little Maxine. Jeff quickly tugged on Hannah's leash and Max went flying. She ran straight into her house yelping. Her owner's son was standing there with us as the dog's smelled each other and saw the whole thing. Soon after, the owner himself came outside to reassure us that she was OK. Because I was so freaked out, I could not accept that. I had to check her for myself. They allowed me into their home to check out poor Maxine. She was a little hesitant at first, but she finally let me check her. As it was, because of a tumor, she had a leg removed. At the time she ran to Hannah, you would have never known. So now, I see this and feel horrible for the little girl. Well, I checked her out and there were no punctures or blood. She was just soaked with Hannah's drool. Gross!! I don't think that poor little Maxine would have won that fight!

Wow, what a walk! Never thought something like that would happen. Not Jeff's dog, she is good!But she still is a dog.

There was one good thing that came out of this, we were able to meet some of the neighbors. That was interesting to me because of what they do for a living. There were clothing designers, for children and such. They invited us in to look at their collection, but I felt so bad at what happened that I refused. I told them that I would be back again some time later to look at them, for sure. I love clothing and design. In fact, before this incident happened, Jeff and I were talking about a show that I was watching earlier that night. All things happen for a reason, I guess.

Thank you!!

I want to thank those who did comment. To answer some questions or should I say comments. I dont't blog for the comments, but it IS nice to hear opinions from other people. I enjoy writing and I guess I would like to know that at least whoever is reading it my blog is also enjoying it. Was that too harsh? Or foward, oh well. I am writing for me, I guess the fact of the matter is that my readers are the ones that are close to me and they hear the stories first hand, so I am being redundant. Maybe thats why there are no comments. I realize now that I was having a bad day when I wrote that entry. Sometimes its the little stupid things that break the camels back, was that right?? Whatever! You know what I mean! Thanks again to those who commented!!

Pointless to blog

Well, I know that I am not as interesting and important like some of the other blogs, but some of them are about, well shit!!! I have certain people who view them and that is all. So far on all my blogs I have only three comments. To me that means I am not blog worthy so...after this week I will be deleting my blog again. I make comments on other blogs, and you know who you are, but I never get any back. So rather than me wasting my time telling you shit that you don't care to read, I will just cancel my blog. Remember you know who you are and the same will be paid foward.

A Day in My Life

Well, I must say that I pushed myself to my limits again today. I always try to get as much done as possible, but there is always something that needs to be done. I make a list everyday that includes things that are needing to be done, and things that are past needing to be done. Of course, I try to tackle the things that are past being done first, but sometimes the other things get in the way.

Like today, I am home with the kids and which means I have lessons to teach, OK, but what about the yard that has to be mowed. OK, I said to myself last nite, I will get up at the crack of dawn and mow the grass. That way when the kids wake up I can teach. Well, that didn't happen like I wanted. I got up at 7:30 instead. Late start, now I have to kick this yard out quick. Well, living in S. Florida doesn't help, because it is hot as hell at 8 am. So I do the yard and finish at 10:30. Not too late to get started with lessons. I take a shower and get ready to teach.

Lessons today went very smoothly. Two of the kids did their own work, while I worked with the other one on one. Seemed to go very well. I had them read yesterday, so we reviewed what was read. We did their math and English after. So far I have not yet added any additional subjects because I really need to see where they are with the others first. Seems to me that my kids are pretty smart, so this should be easy for the most part. We end up finishing our lessons at 1:30. Not too bad, three hours.

Now because I did wake up so early. It was time for me to relax. I let the kids play video games and play on the computer. I end up falling asleep for an hour. I needed it. I can't get up early, I battle the whole day because of it. After my nap, I had to go to the store to get more ink for the printer ( a necessity). From there, my darling daughter needed hair care products so we had to get those. Back at the house. Now my brother shows up. One more thing to do, get his car from the shop. It was there for two days as it was, so it was time to pick it up. Back home again. Normally this would be a day that I attend my Taekwondo class, but not tonight. I still have more to do.

How about dinner tonight! Sounds good, so let me start that too. Oh yeah, I still have laundry to do, yikes! Will it get done today, well the day is not over yet! Dinner was done and we all ate, very good if I must say. The promise before dinner, was that I would make brownies if everyone ate. Of course, clean plates. Its amazing how that happens! Right now as we speak, they are baking up. Kids cant wait, they are sitting here with me waiting for the time to pass until they are ready.

Seems like I still have a few small things to do yet today. Oh yeah, finish lesson plans for Max tomorrow. The other two are done, but I missed his, well not really. I was taken away from it for something else that had to be done at that moment. Time is clicking away and soon the brownies will be done, just another mess to clean up. You know what, though I am so tired, I would not trade this for the world!!!!

Work

Here I am sitting at work, bored out of my mind. We have taken care of all the customers, as usual and now there is nothing to do but answer the phones. I have found that I am addicted to online poker, so this is what I do at work. Seems like what is the point? Well, I personally don't think there is one. I will just sit here and get paid!!! All that is great, but there are so many other things that I could be doing, like at home. A mother's work is never done, so I have plenty that I could be doing.

It seems that most of the time this is the case at work. Lots of customers, but D and I take care of shit here and knock it out! The problem is that we are totally bored all over again. We always have lots to do, but nothing takes more than 5 minutes to do....

I wish that I could take my personal stuff to work and do it there, but there is no washing machine and dryer. I have all the kids school books at home too. If I had the means I would do so many things at work, just don't want to bring the whole house here.

I would really be happy if I had, of course, an unlimited supply of money and stay home with my kiddo's. That would be great! That is what I have wanted my whole life. One day I will be there, but for now, hi ho hi ho, it's off to work I go...

Well it's over...

It is the next day and Fay has passed us. It was nothing more that a constant gust of wind. We get winds like that often, they just aren't consist ant. So no big deal. The kids are outside playing, back to the norm.

I on the other hand am busy, only because it is my day OFF!!! I have organized everything for homeschooling and now I am just waiting on the books to arrive. I have also done laundry and plan on cleaning the rooms out. Someday we will be moving and I like to get things sorted out before hand. That way, I don't bring unnecessary stuff with me to the new house. I also have my belt ceremony tonight, that is if everything is cool with the TKD school. We haven't heard anything yet, so I am not quite sure. So since this was only to be short, cause I am just taking a break, I am going for now.

Seems like things never end!!!!

Fay

Well it is hurricane season here in Florida, and we have our first storm making land fall. Fay is not yet a hurricane, but it may be by the end of the evening. So far, schools are closed on the first two days, not too many kids are happy about that. My kids, on the otherhand, are being homeschooled, so we are not affected. In fact, there are more things we can do since we will be trapped inside. I have not started anything with them, but if I want to I can.

So far today it has rained all day with high gusts of wind. The kids were inside all day being bored. Not much to do in the rain on a normal day. This is just a little worse because of the winds. Too dangerous.

On the good side, we pretend like we are camping, something that we love. It is more like an adventure, as long as no one gets hurt. To keep from being bored, we will be playing games and cards. Hopefully the storm will pass and things will be back to normal soon.

Good luck to everyone out there that is in Fay's path. Hope you are all safe!!!

Kids

You know that it is real funny how sometimes we want our kids to grow up, and other times we want them to stay young. At what point is it good for both? My kids are all at the age in which they are capable of doing things for themselves. My daughter can cook and wash clothes, which is more than most 12 year olds, or is it? At what age do we start teaching them things that are important in their future. My eldest son is 8 and he really doesn't know how to do much of anything around the house except maybe take out the trash. I do know that he is capable of more, but what is the age you start to teach these things? My youngest on the other hand, 5 years old, can load the dishwasher, take out the trash, clean the table and so on. He really is amazing sometimes. But I didn't teach him any of those things, he learned from watching the others.


Many a time, I tell my kids to not rush growing up. It seems almost impossible. They learn so much so early, that sometimes its even scary. I want them to enjoy their youth while they still have it and on the other hand, I want them to learn certain responsibilities. Where is the line?


Sometimes being a parent is very difficult. Some decisions we want to make to help the kids, but then some decisions are making them grow up faster. I have a lot of questions when it comes to my kids. I want them to be successful individuals and also have a positive impact on society. I guess that I am to do what most parents do, and that is to hang in there. Everything will fall in to place at some point I guess. I just have so many concerns, mainly because what I do see out there. I feel like I am a good mom, and I will continue doing what I am doing, for now!!

Homeschooling

I have recently decided to home school my kids. I am getting all kinds of feedback from people. Some good and then some not so good. I am a firm believer that everyone is entitled to their opinions, so I let them speak. The fact of the matter remains that I will home school my kids for at least a year. I am willing to try anything to help my children be successful in this tough world.

I am a single mother of 3 kids, ages 12, 8 and 5. I will have my hands full, but I also have a lot of support. That helps tremendously. I know at this point that I am responsible for their education, which is fine with me. Simply because I am an adult and I think that I have a pretty good preception as to what is out there. I feel that socializing is important, but no so much at a younger age. Yes children do need companions to share things with, mostly because they can't and won't share everything with their parents. But do they need constant socialization while learning, not as much as you think. Education is the key to success. Socializing will come later.

Kids are the future for every generation. I think it is very important that we teach our children, whether at home or in school, the things that really are important. Also, giving them a chance to express themselves artistically. That is something that is slowly being removed from our public schools, why....that's a whole entire separate subject.

I will be working part time while going through this new adventure. I have already planned out what the kids will be doing while I am at work. It will work out, because I will make it. I have confidence in myself enough to know that it won't be easy, but it will be well worth it. My kids will reap the benefits in more ways than just one.

As I have also seen from home school families, the family unit is stronger. I know that the kids have more respect for the parents and it shows. Children listen better and respond better. They are more well rounded young individuals, and that is important. I have good expectations from this and I will be letting you know how things are going.

For now, wish me luck and success!!!!

AAhhhh Sunday!

Well, I must start off by saying, that this was one of the best Sunday's ever. We went out on the boat to go lobstering. The seas were perfect, until it rained. Right as we were leaving we ran into some rain, then it passed. We ran into some more rain, and it also passed. One more time in the rain and finally clear. Ok, now where was I about the best day...Oh yeah. So we are enjoying some sunshine and then mom points and says, "There is where we are heading". We all look up and what do we see, more rain. Great, so we are already all wet and freezing and now we have to go into the rain, yeah right. Well, everyone agreed so we did....We arrived at our spot, anchored and then set up the bow cover so everyone would be dryer (a little). We sat the rain out for about two minutes before the guys decided it was warmer in the water. Sure enough they were right. The kids went in next, followed by mom and I. Ok this is much better I thought.

Finally all the rain had stopped and it was time to scope out the bottom for some tail. Jeff and Jason went out first to scope it out. Looked good. So in went the hooka. Mom, Jason and Jeff went first. There were lobster everywhere they said. Some time had passed and they came up with a bag full. Ok my turn. So I decided to go with mom. We also found a great spot to go to, but because it was my first time with the new snare, I caught only two. We came up with 5 but 3 were short. Damn, that sucks!! Ok from here on out, I will be look out from the surface.

While watching the guys down below, I see a turtle in the distance. He was heading straight for them. I had to battle him off OUR lobster. This went on the whole time while we were down. At one point the turtle did get one to munch on. It was one of our shorts that we caught and released. We finally finished getting our share, with 30 on board, yipee!!!

After the hunt, we decided to let the kids snorkel a reef. I didn't go in because my mouth had enough of snorkels in it. That happens when the salt water touches the inside of your mouth for long periods of time. It sucks, and it is a little painful.

We headed in about 7 pm or so...what a great day!!!

Tonight we will have lobster for dinner!!!

Moving In

Soon, I will be moving in with the man of my dreams. I am a little afraid, but I am also sure that things will work out fine. We don't argue about nonsense. We do though have disagreements. Every relationship does. The difference is that we talk them out and come up with a resolution rather then fighting and unnecessary name calling. I will admit that I am the first one to get loud, mainly because most of the time I feel as if I am not being heard. I know that screaming doesn't get you far, but at a certain moment in time, it feels good. I have children, so I know that screaming doesn't work, all they do is block you out. After I calm down, we talk about it. Then it is much easier to come to an agreement. So I know that this will not be an issue in our relationship.

On the other hand, my main problem is that....I don't like taking things from anyone, especially the people that I love. I love my man, Jeff, unconditionally...I have waited for a man like him for so long. I have learned, through prior relationships, that you shouldn't depend on others for your happiness. He, on the other hand, thinks differently. Jeff is a man's man, and he wants to help the woman he loves. So he is willing to help me financially if need be. Man, I love him!!! He has offered to pay all the bills in the house, which is his, that we will eventually be living in. Why, you ask? Because I want to home school my kids. I can't work full time while doing that, so I will have less money to pay the important bills. But he has offered to step up to help me with a responsibility that is mine. He loves those kids, so he is willing to help me to support their education.

While still, since I will be home more often, I have agreed to keep the house as any woman should. I do understand that it is hard for some women who have full time jobs to support their family. But if I can stay home, I am more than willing to take care of the house. I have always believed that a woman's place is in the home, especially if there are children involved. Kids need someone at home when they are home. They should not be allowed to wander the streets. They still need to be watched, though not as closely as when they are little, but still nevertheless.

There are more issues that I know will come to pass after some time being together. But I know with the relationship that we have, that we will be just fine. We have agreed on so many things so far, that I find it hard to believe that it won't work otherwise.

I know that one day, soon, I will be marrying him. Our life will be wonderful. This is what I have waited for my whole life!!!


Jeff, I love you!!!

Child Support

Yesterday I went to court with my ex on a contempt of court on non-payment of his child support for our three kids. This had me worried, was I going to have to explain to my kids that their dad was in jail? Was I going to have to watch the tears roll down their innocent faces? Luckily for them, and him, I didn't have to explain. He was allowed to pay a small amount of $300 to save his ass for the day. That will keep him out of jail for now. In the meantime, he said he will be modifying his income amount so that he can have the payments reduced. Well that doesn't make the $61,000 disappear. It will just not add up as quickly. Of course, that is, if he does what he says he is going to do. That is a whole other story.

What is wrong with our system? Hmmm... this can be answered in so many ways. I won't elaborate or I could be here all day. The fact of the matter is that there are too many dead beat dads in this world. It doesn't get any better either. There is just not a system in place to keep these guys straight. If they can't pay, why can't the government give them jobs and then garnish their wages. If they quit, they go to jail. Simple. Nope, nothing is that simple.

All I can really say to stay positive is that I get to see all the good stuff everyday with my kids. The money is an issue, but not as big as most of you think. I am not a money hungry woman. I work to take care of my kids no matter what. If I get money for their support, we spend it like it was a lottery winning. I don't expect it, nor should anyone. I don't live my life waiting for others to do for me. I still take care of my responsibilities on my own. Part of the problem out there is that everyone wants a free ride. Not to say that I don't agree that they have to pay, they should. But how are the courts going to press the issue when it is so out of control. It got out of hand too long ago to fix it in one day. It bothers me that I don't receive the money, but it doesn't hold me back from living my life either.

Eventually, things will come to pass and my kids will appreciate everything that I have done for them. They will grow to realize that their dad was there only for fun. Whatever, however...As long as I have anything to do with it, my kids will not be a burden on society when they have their own children.

New Beginnings

Welcome to my newest adventure in blogging. Since there is a beginning for everything, why not start this off with the birth of 6 beautiful kittens.


Yesterday, I received a frantic call from my daughter about one of my mothers' cats. Well she was pregnant, and apparently going to have the kittens. I rushed home from work, which is only 5 minutes away, to find out what all the commotion was about. When I arrived, I found Shy and the cat in moms room. Pepper, the cat, had been pacing back and forth making weird meow sounds. Sounds I myself have never heard. This was very exciting for me!



After about half an hour of pacing, the panting started. Poor Pepper was everywhere in the room trying to get comfortable. Finally, she decided that she was going to settle down in the laundry basket that we had prepared for her and the kittens. She lived there with her kittens before in her first litter, exactly 5 months earlier. She is a busy little kitty! Then out of nowhere she started going crazy, like weird crazy!! Two seconds later a kitten was born. As she was cleaning the new baby another one came, it was a twin! The only reason I know is because there was only one placenta. That was super cool to me. Twin kittens, and they are identical from what we can see so far. Both black with gray stripes on the legs. About 15 minutes later, number three came. It was black and white, like mama. Another 15 minutes and number four arrived. He was also black, but not as dark as the first two. Is she done, we thought, no way. We felt her belly, there had to be more in there. Almost and hour later, number five arrived. He was all gray, beautiful. Lastly, 35 minutes later, number six. This one was scary because he was born breach (feet first). Mama kitty took care of that though. As she was cleaning him, he slowly was pulled out of the birth canal. I thought it was going to be a fatality, but not this time.




Birth is a wonderful thing, no matter if you are a human or a cat! This was the first time for me and I was truly amazed at how they do this with no pain killers. Ha!


The unfortunate thing is that because we already have 9 cats, we will not be keeping any of these. If you check http://www.captmary.blogspot.com/ you can track the kittens progress and maybe adopt one in a few weeks.